MY LADY BREAK TIME IS OVER SO SIT UP

Some women are so fake to the extent that you begin to feel like you are playing a role in a fairy tale with them.So you also play along just to let the sleeping dogs lie.

Most women of today have become unpredictable because of untruthful behaviours and lifestyles we portray. Some man have had such bitter experiences with women that they find it difficult to diffrenciate between a good and a bad woman.
They have classified all women into one category and are treating them same because of past experiences.

Someone will ask what about the other side of men?
Well, my answer is that we women are responsible for the behaviours of our man. If all women will get the fact that we are each others keeper and not fight each other? The men won't get the chance to misbehave.

For example, if all the so called side chicks will learn to refuse the married men who approches them to help them cheat on their wives and work  with their hands. No man will ever get any woman to take advantage off or no woman will cry because another woman is breaking her home.

I have personally had experinces where i just had to walk away because i wouldn't want to sleep with someone my father's and big brother's age. They were not moved one bit thinking i was going to come back because it has become a norm that every woman must go through. When i was stepping out i heard him saying i have been meeting your type who the hell do you think you are.

Most of us don't care about our dignity any longer. We only moved by material gains and will do anything just to acquire them.

Whiles some women are killing themsleves with hard work to survive,others lives too are centred on what is in vogue. The new fashion trend, celebrity update, New dance etc and are walking about aimlessly trying to reap where they didnt sow to cater for our fake lifestyles.

If only we will get the correct mentality and walk in purpose,our men wont get the chance to take advantage of us.

When a woman is successful and up and going, She automatically gains the respect of men.because men are easily moved by what they see and not what they hear unlike women.

You are not working as a woman, but what you have on from the crown of your head to the souls of your feet can set you up in business than to even talk of that expensive phone you are using for calls and whatapp only rendering it useless in your hands because of its functions that are dormant.

I want us to take a good look at our lives this very minute as women and see if we are yielding a positive fruit with our lives or we are just wasting our previous time walking about aimlessly.

If you are a woman working your heart out to cater for yourself and dependant i salute you paaa. But if you a woman walking about with a huge bill for no good reason doing nothing apart from looking for the next man to dupe.
Abeg raise your hand and say FATHER LORD JESUS I SERIOUSLY NEED DELIVERANCE FROM THIS KIND OF LIFESTYLE. PLEASE HELP ME COME OUT OF IT AND MAKE ME A BETTER PERSON IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME.

GOD bless you for taking such step. Get into a bible believing church and ask the pastor for help or inbox me and i will be glad to help.

I love you but JESUS loves you more!!!

BE EQUIPPED BEFORE YOU ARE PICKED

I beleive so much in the saying that "behind every successful man there is a woman " Yes it's true. Do you know why?

Women are born naturally with the gift of assisting. We are automatically helpers from above divinely. That is why when a woman misses her purpose in her marriage or relationship of any kind there is a massive chaos.
When a woman misses her purpose in marriage and relationships; it leaves all her surroundings uncovered and exposed to all forms of attacks spiritually and physically.

When all you care about and the only reason you wanted to be married and want to marry is just to be married because you want to be married then am sorry to tell you that your marriage already failed before you got into it or are getting into.
A man is a house with his woman as the pillars holding the four corners of the building. So if you loose your purpose for which your husband the builder  stands on, we all know what will happen to the building. It will definately collapse because no building can stand on it own without a pillar.

As a woman, you supposed to be your husband's greatest cheerleader, his best friend, advicer, peaceful accommodating roommate, protector, his best follower and above all a pastor watching over his soul as Christ demands of us with every soul.

And so, before you get into marriage the best planning and the correct mentality you need to sustain the marriage is key. If your only planning is for or was for only your wedding day then am sorry to tell you to get back to the drawing board all over again to plan your lifetime all over again with the mentally of a helper and not just a roommate to someone whom you are aimlessly living with.

Every calibre of a man is a head in his own jurisdiction. And so you dont need to be married to a president before you realise that you have a great task ahead of you and expect your man to work on you to fit into his calibre. Every woman's greatest assignment before marriage is to work on yourslef mentally,emotionally, physically and spiritually to be able to lead your husband on from behind. 

Men automatically are bread winners even though the responsibility is equally shared among both sex lately, the fact still remains that women runs the home. A home is where there is peace, harmony and protective field that a man could run to anytime and not firing squad where it is avoided by even the strongest.
Dont just live in a house but run a home because a house is a place where people just have a place to sleep and run off when the morning comes. Unlike a home where there's peace and harmony.

To be able to run a home, you must have the tenacity to be able to do so. That is why you need to plan your future with basic fundamentals by preparing yourslef pysically,  emotionally,mentally and spiritually.
JESUS said it clearly that what you purpose in your heart is what you will get. So what is your purpose for your marriage that you are working or worked towards or you just waiting to get into it and start singing this chorus that "what will be will be"

You are to be the refill container for your man as a woman in any case. You should be so equipped to be able to impart the life of your man physically,  mentally, emotionally and even academically that whenever he comes back home empty he will be going back the next morning fully loaded again to go face whatever task that lies ahead of him.

It's about time we don't only focus on our bridal shower, wedding gowns and the number of bridesmaids etc but also plan our future with the basic fundenmental knowledge so we can be able to adjust when the times comes to be joined together. Or go back to the drawing board if we already in it to get the fundenmental knowledge we lacked at the beginning to amend and deal with the loop hopes that has been created by our ignorance.

Hear me my lady, any woman who marries a man just to take advantage of him is not smart.
A woman whose criteria for choosing a man is only based on wealth,good looking, money , fame, name (family name..surname) etc is a joker and not matured enough for marriage. For marriage is about you taking over somebody's son whom has been catered for years to become that great man you desiring.

So get busy to equip yourslef to take up the Barton from your husband's mother when the time is due.
May the HOLYSPIRIT enables us to amend all wrongs in our relationships and marriages in JESUS name Amen.

I love you but JESUS loves you more

OBEDIENCE IS PARAMOUNT

matter how well you can pray, prophesy, preach and make declarations of the word of GOD in Your life, Your obedience to GOD is paramount.

For obedience is better than sacrifice.Saul lost his position because of disobedience. Sarah and Abraham faced alot of consequences because of disobedience. I personally also know alot of people who are struggling in life because of their disobedience to godly instructions.

At a certain point in my life, when my challenges became overwhelming and i couldnt take them. I sat down to ponder over my situation and realised that i had not really paid much attention to most of the godly counsel given me. And so i had a change of mind to always go by a godly counsel no matter how smart i thought i was because when a godly or a spiritual man speaks from the oracles of God, it simply means God has spoken.  And because our God is all knowing. He can never lead us astray. This has helped me come this far in life and has brought a tremendous change into my life.

Today, all am asking us to do is to ask the *SPIRIT OF THE LORD TO HELP US LIVE IN TOTAL OBEDIENCE TO HIS WORD*

May GOD help us to serve HIM in spirit and in truth in JESUS mighty name.

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DON'T SERVE THE MAN OF GOD BUT THE GOD OF THE MAN

It is when there is an issue involing the church that you will get to know who has been harbouring bitterness and hatred for years concerning their experiences with their past relationships either with a pastor, a fellow brethren and all that has to do with the church.

Forgetting that the church is like a hospital that everyone goes to for dignosis and therefore it's the same people we encounter in our day to day activities are the very same people we encounter also in church.

Bruises may come no matter who you are.so far as your are living among men. Let us learn to always see things from JESUS point of view where HE  prayed for Peter and at some point too rebuked the devil which had gotten into him and moved on.
I believe He was teaching us to be each others keeper and not each other's destroyer, betrayer or killer.

No matter what experience you have had in the church, don't draw conclusions that there's no good thing or experience in the church to opt out or fail in your assignment. For JESUS knew about Judas from day one. He still remained focussed till HE finished HIS race and was glorified.

What has happened with you and the body of CHRIST that has made you hate the universal body of CHRIST with passion. We sometimes get disappinted because we choose to serve the man of GOD and not the GOD of man. Dont get your priorities in the church twisted to focus on man. But do all you can to serve the GOD of man for HE neither sleeps nor slumber. He doesnt disappoint no matter what happens.
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CHOOSE SANITY OVER ALL SITUATIONS

CHOOSE SANITY OVER ALL SITUATIONS

I had an attitudinal test sometime this year. I encountered a woman who was so difficult and a very rude person to deal with. This woman was so rude and petty that she could insult anyone anywhere and anyhow. The first time i encountered her, *"the first impression i got was "helloooo this is my territory i dictate the pace and everyone here follows so join the queue"*.

So, i had to quickly switch on my spiritual antenna to be able to weigh her and also determine how to handle her spiritually and physically. I chose to ignore her misconduct and provocations and focus on my aim of been there. Honestly, there was a time that i wished i could slap her upon seeing how she was handling one grown up man we were all dealing with  Then i remembered i had every right to do anything i wanted but it's not everything that is accepted of me as a child of God. 1Cor 10:23. This woman was a torn in our flesh.

Apparently, all her colleagues had left her to her fate because of this behavior of hers. There was no way we could have avoided her because she was the first point of contact at the place and the very person that was appointed for us to deal with.

I made up my mind to go through that test of overcoming her evil deeds and wickedness with the love of JESUS CHRIST. My dear, my temper was tested on numerous occasions and people begun to  wonder why I tolerated her because i looked like a fool.

I danced to every tune of hers for a month and she kept complaining till there was nothing to complain about. Then she resorted to complaining of me rather been rude. I felt bad upon hearing such comment till she told one of my colleagues that she never liked me from the very first time she saw me. Then i got the whole show of why she was always on my case. Two of our team members had to be replaced because of her. One of them told me frankly that if i don't swap him he might slap her one day because she can't be treating him like a trash for he is a man. I quickly replaced him for peace to reign. The situation was so bad that i had to be with them every morning just to psych them up after every encounter.

People like this woman are very much aware of their prowess. They are most times the hindrance to our promise land. They use their expertise and influence to bring us down with all their might. Our failure is their medal and so we don't have to let them win over us to get a medal by going so low to their level of evil deeds and wickedness. For someone to boldly tell people that she hates you is definitely not a good sign  for a spirit filled person to have anything to do with in any way. Now, guess what? She has stopped all her gymnastics ever since i swapped positions with someone and stopped going there for a while. This clearly shows that she knew what she was up to. Thank God i didn't fall for her trap.

Because it wasn't permitted of me to retaliate. I handled her in Prayer on my knees and lived in peace with her because the bible teaches that we live in peace with all men Romans12:14. She stopped abusing me verbally and started pretending to be smiling with me but say all manner of things behind my back. Yeah such people are great pretenders too. I wasn't perturbed because i had overcomed her through the power of the blood. She wasn't the first to deal with because of who i am and what i carry. I knew very well light and darkness do not have anything in common. So, i don't let such people dim my light with their darkness. Till date all she will say when asked of my offence is that I don't respect and that I talk back when she is talking....like seriously? Hahaaha JESUS is still LORD.

 Whether you believe in spiritual things or not, it's exist. And the bible state it clearly that for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and rulers of the darkness of this world Eph 6:12 KJV. Upon all what happened i still kept my peace and chose sanity over all situations. I realized i still had my peace of mind no matter how she would treat me every time.

I never became resentful but shook off every heaviness whenever it was thrown at me. She rather kept on becoming a great deal of a monster day by day.

What am I saying?  Day in and out, we encounter people and situations that are a threat to our sanity. It's up to us to determine the outcome no matter how we are pushed to the wall. I chose to let my patience be tested to the brim and in the nutshell I won.

I wasn’t in competition with her to know who was superior but  was rather in competition with myself to come out a better person than i am.

What is a threat to you that is dragging you to the mud?

Note: No matter how you try to clean a pig, it will still go back to the mud because that is where it used to.

Don’t let people influence you with their negative attitude to become like them.

Always know that when poisonous people realize they can no longer control you, they try to control how others see you.  They lie about you, try to set you up, paint you into a colour you are not. The misinformation is hurting and unfair. But stay above it, trust me, others will eventually find out the truth just as you know it.

Defend yourself with your character not your mouth, for people will not always believe what you say but they have no option than to testify to your character.

 Ignore what others say and be patient in the Lord for He always has something planned for you

Love you but JESUS loves you more.

I AM REMINDING YOU OF YOUR AGE AS AT TODAY!

I AM REMINDING YOU OF YOUR AGE AS AT TODAY!
*Year - Age*
1950 - 68
1951 - 67
1952 - 66
1953 - 65
1954 - 64
1955 - 63
1956 - 62
1957 - 61
1958 - 60
1959 - 59
1960 - 58
1961 - 57
1962 - 56
1963 - 55
1964 - 54
1965 - 53
1966 - 52
1967 - 51
1968 - 50
1969 - 49
1970 - 48
1971 - 47
1972 - 46
1973 - 45
1974 - 44
1975 - 43
1976 - 42
1977 - 41
1978 - 40
1979 - 39
1980 - 38
1981 - 37
1982 - 36
1983 - 35
1984 - 34
1985 - 33
1986 - 32
1987 - 31
1988 - 30
1989 - 29
1990 - 28
1991 - 27
1992 - 26
1993 - 25
1994 - 24
1995 - 23
1996 - 22
1997 - 21
1998 - 20
Now continue pretending that you are young.
Just by seeing the above ages and passing by.... You know you are old.
I'm not here to give you heart attack but to make you think twice about your age and your eternal destination. As each day passes by, we are moving closer to our grave. The question now is..... What have you been able to achieve on Jesus behalf
since you arrived on this earth? Is that the best you can do? Do something now! Time is not waiting for any man...... You are growing older by the day.
Lay your treasures in heaven, this earth is temporal. Give Jesus your total submission. Every soul shall taste death (Happy are those who didn't see but yet believe for they shall make Heaven) and you shall face judgement. Then, whoever escapes hell, is admitted to Heaven. The life of this world is merely an illusory enjoyment. Think about it now, else the next 24 hours might be too late. God bless you!!!!
       

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               Enjoy the day gloriously🤝

FINDING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE AS A WOMAN

I believe most of us women are not happy with our achievements so far and wish we could get the chance to do better or start all over again so we can correct our mistakes by making better choices and decisions than before. Loosing focus or not conscious of how your life should be as a woman would do you more harm than good.


Every journey begins with a step. Various steps when combined becomes the bulky influence we need to get to our destination. For instance, if you want to travel to Kumasi or a nearby town or city, no matter how fast you want to go, you can never begin and end the journey at a go, and so you have to prepare yourself by learning one thing at a time.


 HOW DO U GET TO KNOW UR PURPOSE?

 (1) ...DO ANALYSIS
Before you take any steps towards any achievement in life, you have to take a stock of yourself and the way forward. Your interests, passions, abilities etc. should give you a sense of understanding towards where you can do exploits because passion gears you towards where you can excel.


 (2)...PRESS TOWARDS THE MARK
You have to do all you can to accomplish your goal. Move towards your passion and learn to overcome these  ‘R’ enemies - REJECTION and RESISTANCE. Develop a strong mental attitude against them so you can stand tall to defeat them whenever they show up at any stage of your journey.


 (3)...SEE WITHIN YOUR MEANS FOR YOUR REWARD
Make up your mind not to be easily moved by challenges and overcome them because there's always light at the end of the tunnel. Every challenge has a reward packaged inside it that could only be gotten after overcoming it. So when the going gets though, don’t quit; see the other side of it and keep digging till you reach your reward.


(4)...ALWAYS SEE THE POSITIVE SIDE OF SITUATIONS AND ISSUES
Don’t be easily moved by obstacles or negative or contrary situations to your goals. But have faith and press towards the mark of your higher calling. Forget about the things that are behind you and stretch yourself towards what lies ahead of you. Yes, that’s where all your focus should be. Let go of all of the baggage so you can be able stretch towards the goal ahead of you. Don’t ever give up for you are strongly equipped more than you see yourself to be.


A very clear example is about me and my women’s ministry which started in 2012.
 I have had a lot of challenges and still having them but i made up my mind to always see the better side of issues and moved towards it.  My focus was on the lives that would be touched and transformed if am able to stand tall no matter what would try to draw me back.

By so doing i have been able to touch the lives of young women through the means of seminars, conferences and a radio program which is still ongoing and is still building and empowering women by the grace of GOD.have also adopted a disabled home called Voice Ghana and we are helping to build their lives especially the women and children through our giving and other programs.


So you see, there’s more satisfaction in fighting on rather than giving up. There would not be any transformation if you give up but there would be if you keep aiming for lives to be touched.


I love you but JESUS loves you more